Meet Jane. Jane is extremely ambitious and dedicated. She is always on time for work. She is high-energy and always willing to go the extra mile. Jane had been at her company for over a year when a position opened above her. She was excited and let everyone know that she was interested in the position. She interviewed with her supervisor and found out a week later that her company had hired a new person for the position.
There are two ways Jane could respond to this situation. The first option would be to get down on herself. To feel like she isn’t good enough or like she needs to leave the company because she thinks they don’t value her. Jane starts coming into work late and leaving early. In this situation, Jane has a low EQ.
On the other hand, Jane could go to her supervisors and ask, “What is it that I need to do, or not do, to be better at my position?” She can see this as an isolated incident and learn from it. She will take the feedback she receives from her supervisors and apply it in order to work smarter in specific areas. This doesn’t mean Jane isn’t upset or disappointed about being passed over for the promotion, but that she’s able to turn it into a learning moment. In this situation, Jane is someone with a high EQ.
Did you know October is National Emotional Intelligence Awareness Month? Take inventory of your Emotional Intelligence today. How do you react to adversity? Maybe it’s time to reevaluate how you deal with hardships. On the other hand, maybe you have a high EQ! Either way, there’s always room for improvement.
Cheering you on always,