Banish Burnout and Impeach Imposter Syndrome!

Updated: Aug 8

Working Mom’s To-Do List

The life of a working mom is filled with so many things:

  1. Making breakfast

  2. Organizing carpools

  3. Budget spreadsheet

  4. Planning playdates

  5. Planning lunch meetings

  6. Keep tracking of schedules (double whammy – work & home)

  7. Building a Valentine’s Day card box

  8. Spring recital (damn, I guess I’ll have to pay for expedited shipping for dress clothes that actually fit the kid)

  9. Building a marketing plan

  10. Planning your spouse’s birthday party

  11. Planning your kid’s birthday party

  12. Planning the company retreat

  13. Soccer practice (don’t forget today is your snack day – FOR THE WHOLE TEAM!)

  14. Completing performance evaluations

  15. Parent/Teacher conferences (basically your kid’s performance eval)

  16. Inventory Control (another work & home – double treat)

It just goes on, and on, and on…

Are you on your list?

Does this list look like your typical day? Is there anything missing? Because I see one GLARING, ACHINGLY, BIG item missing: time for you.

To be honest, it breaks my heart that this is the case for so many successful working moms. Prioritizing themselves seldom makes the list, and when it does, it’s so far down at the bottom that self-care is often overlooked or undertaken in a totally half-hearted, rushed, “check this off the box” way.

WebMD describes burnout as a form of exhaustion caused by constantly feeling swamped, and it results from excessive and prolonged emotional, physical, and mental stress. In many cases, burnout is related to one’s job. Burnout happens when you’re overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to keep up with life’s incessant demands.

Late last year, Maven released a study that said 1 in 4 working parents are currently experiencing burnout. I suppose maybe it’s a good thing to point out that you aren’t alone. However, I think it’s better to point out that you can do some things to help with burnout.

Confronting Burnout

The best advice that I can give is to address burnout before it becomes BURNED OUT!

There are many ideas and suggestions about how to prevent burnout. Everything from building in regular time for yourself into your schedule to learning to negotiate at work for anything from more time off and better assignments, to hiring an assistant to help lessen your workload. Another tactic includes understanding and respecting your limits – while you may really WANT to host your best friend for a fancy homecooked meal –  a reservation at a nice restaurant can accomplish the same thing –  spending time with someone you value!

One of the most significant factors for working women to avoid burnout is finding support – at all places in their life: home, work, friends – having people to talk to, that understand what you are going through and genuinely support you, can make dealing with a busy load much more manageable.

Who’s the Imposter Here?

There are so many women I talk to regularly that seem to have a very different image of themselves than everyone around them. It is staggering.

So many women share their doubts about mothering – constantly worrying that they aren’t doing a good enough job. Meanwhile, they have intelligent, engaged children – who love their moms. Just think, how many times have you seen a social media post that begins with “I’m a terrible mom….?”